Find out what the fight was really about.
Drop in a conversation that went sideways. The decoder reads it against the 9 Core Relationship Foundational Needs, names the pattern you two keep repeating, and shows you a better way to say the same thing — then hands you a report you can print.
- SafetyTrust, stability, predictability, security
- ConnectionLove, intimacy, closeness, affection
- AcceptanceBelonging and being valued without judgment
- SignificanceRespect, appreciation, importance
- AutonomyFreedom, independence, choice
- DiscoveryNovelty, adventure, growth experiences
- CompetenceCapability, intelligence, mastery
- ContributionService, purpose, helping others
- UnderstandingBeing heard and emotionally understood
Decode a Conversation
Paste it, upload it, or build it line by line.
One message per line works best. Lines like Name: message are detected automatically.
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