Find out what the fight was really about.

Drop in a conversation that went sideways. The decoder reads it against the 6 Core Social Needs, names the pattern you two keep repeating, and shows you a better way to say the same thing — then hands you a report you can print.

  • BelongingFeeling included, accepted, part of a unit
  • SignificanceFeeling valued, important, seen
  • CompetenceFeeling capable, effective, respected for skill
  • Security / PredictabilityFeeling safe, stable, in control
  • ConnectionEmotional closeness, empathy, being understood
  • Approval / AcceptanceFeeling liked, validated, not judged

Decode a Conversation

Paste it, upload it, or build it line by line.

One message per line works best. Lines like Name: message are detected automatically.

Nothing is stored. Close the tab and it's gone.